If you have ever been exposed to the philosophy that we all “create our own reality” and  have found credence in this philosophy, but somehow have not quite been able to manage to truly create the life of your dreams, perhaps an unacknowledged reason for this is that you have never forgiven yourself for your past misdeeds. Thus, you have never really allowed yourself to have the best of everything in life.

All of us have moments in our lives that we regret, and have not fully forgiven ourselves for, and, unconsciously, as a result, we punish ourselves in the form of not allowing ourselves to have in life what it is that we truly want in life. In other words, the problems that many of us experience in our life don’t come from a Universe that is any way cruel or unjust, but rather from our unconscious blocking of the greatest good into our lives out of a false belief that we do not deserve those things. And, often times, the motivation behind this unconscious blocking is the fact that we have not learned to forgive ourselves for past mistakes and misdeeds.

And, since we have been given “free will,” essentially what that means is that we have the power to determine what “will” or “will not” happen in our lives. We dictate the experiences that occur in our lives, and this type of power has at several points in our lives lead us to create things that we later learned we did not want to experience. And so, being slightly afraid of this power which, deep down, we all know that we have, many of us choose to abandon that power in the form of the adoption of a “victim mentality.” That is, we convince ourselves that life is exactly the opposite of the way that it truly is; namely, that we don’t make life happen, but rather that life happens to us. This is essentially our attempt at denying the existing of our free will because we are afraid of what we will create for ourselves in the future. More precisely, we are afraid of the immense power which we all realize deep down that we do indeed have access to affect our lives in whatever way we choose.

And so, I would only offer to you that it turns out that we are “condemned to freedom.” That is, when you consciously create (accept your free will), you are indeed bound to create things that you later regret. This fear of our awesome power is somewhat justified. But, when you unconsciously create (reject your free will and play victim), you are bound to create in your life countless things that you do not want. Thus, your only real option is to accept your free will, create many successes and a few failures, and learn to gradually create fewer and fewer failures. It really is that simple. When you play victim, you will always experience yourself, and thus your life, as a series of failures. But, when you accept your free will, you are bound to create failures, but they are certain to be fewer than if you don’t accept your freedom to will things into existence.

So, I say to you, forgive yourself of your past inability to create what it is you have wanted to create, and to declare to yourself what it is that you truly want to experience of your life, and in no time, it will all be yours. This simple act, in and of itself, may have the power to heal any imbalances you are currently experiencing in your life. Forgive yourself, and heal your life.

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  1. Very thought provoking. Thank you!

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  3. The act of forgiveness has such a profound impact that it deserves its own school of philosophy. Most have experienced the moment of spiritual change that accompanies the complete, sincere forgiveness of another. Few have dared (or even tried) to direct that love inward.


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  6. Hey Kevin – I’ve had all the same revelations, though from reading 1984 by Orwell. submit to those Powers that you trust, and believe in your goals. Do what is needed, just move. You may not always get the expected results, but its better than no results.

    Hope things are going well in Colorado.

    Comment by Justin — August 13, 2007 @ 3:15 am

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